How to love My Wife

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Everybody always takes care of the things they really love.  And if I, as Christians know how to love my wife, in doing so I will be truly blessing myself.  

Caring for things you love

You take care of your motor car so that it would drive well. Every businessman takes care of his business so that it will bring him a better profit. We all take care of our bodies.  You learn how to care for your health so that the vitality and happiness will be maintained.  It only makes sense to take care for the things we love so that they will save us better.  And we need to take care of our wives.

A Christian husband loving his wife is not driven by a selfish motivation. When we look clearly in the Bible we will see why this is true. The biblical understanding of marriage is very deep and very profound.

Love your wife as Christ loved Church

We might think of marriage as simply a relationship between two people; but the Bible explains it in much deeper terms than this. The Bible actually sees the husband and wife as one unity.

Matthew 19:6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.

The Apostle Paul writing in the Book of Ephesians chapter 5 said these words:

Eph 5:28 to 32So the husbands are also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself, for no one ever hated his own flesh but nourishes it and cherishes it even as the Lord does the church.  Because we are members of his body. For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and your cleave to his wife and the two shall become one flesh.

Why it important have healthy self esteem 

Caring for things you love

We all like to care for our health

The Lord Jesus did not condemn a healthy self esteem.  In Matthew chapter 22, verse 39, Jesus told us to “love our neighbour as yourself“.   There is a place for honest self-interest.

Loving your beautiful wife is also loving yourself.  A Christ centred husband can love his wife knowing that by loving her, he is loving himself as well as her. This is because he and her are in fact truly one.  A Christian husband cannot love his wife as a separate entity in order to bless here and her alone – for he cannot love and bless her without blessing himself as well.  His love for her is an expression of his love for himself as well.  His love for her speaks for and springs out of the Unity they share together and so his love for her is really motivated from honest self-interest.

A man loves his body our of the the practical necessity. He loves his body and it depends on it for everything he does. If he expects his body to serve him well, he must take care of it. He cannot take care of himself without at the same time taking care of his body for he and his body are one. So it is with his wife he is one with her and she is one with him.  He cannot be complete without her.

What is “destiny” about

Healthy and godly self esteem is not related to self centred indulgence. A healthy self love is related to the calling of who you are and who you where destined to be in God.

Love is related to destiny.  A healthy self esteem is related to questions such as: Who am I? Why am I here? What is the purpose of my life?  I love myself and take care of myself in order that I can do a better job in what I am called by God to do. So when a husband loves his wife, he loves himself and his wife together as a unity that they may serve God together in the thing which He has called them to do.

I heard an account of a true story of a man who has lost his lung tuberculosis. This man regularly excused himself to go to bed at 8:30 in the evening. He had lost one lung and he knew knew that he had to have extra rest if where to continue to live and support his family. He took care of himself so that he could take care of his family responsibilities.
A loving husband takes care of his wife as he takes care of himself so that you can fulfill and be fulfilled in his calling and her calling together. That is the practical Kind of Love that flows out of a God centred marriage where the wife and her husband are truly one.

The woman is for the man

The Bible teaches that God’s intention in creating woman is to provide a fitting helper for him (Genesis 2:18).
This is not a role that “polls highly” in the God rejecting culture of our present Society.

So the husband who loves his wife takes can take care of her so that she can be blessed and fulfill this precious calling she has from God. But, at the same time her calling will bless her husband, That is the way God ordered ordained it to be. As he loves her in the same way that he loves himself it is also her calling that brings both him and her personal fulfillment. Her husband wants fulfilment for her as he wants it for himself. A christian husband loves his wife as his own body. The two are one!

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